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That is exactly what I was saying in that one post, and there’s nothing “ableist” about it.
You need to understand this. It’s not going to feel very nice, because at the moment you believe that it’s a part of your identity and it gives you an easy, comfortable answer for a lot of very difficult questions that would otherwise require you to put in some real work to solve, and by telling you that it’s not a real thing, I’m taking that comfort away. I understand, I do. But you need to be brave and face the truth of this matter, because all you’re doing right now is painting over the cracks and embracing your mental health issues as positive boons instead of seeing them for what they are and trying to work on them and solve them.
You wouldn’t do that if you had a broken leg or some other physical injury or illness, would you? You wouldn’t try to claim that your broken leg was absolutely meant to be the way that it is and then try to build an identity around it, or try to claim that the reason you can’t walk the way other people do is because you’re not a human person - you’d go to a doctor and have your broken leg treated so that it could heal properly and you could get back to walking normally!
There are rational, psychological explanations for the kind of feelings that can lead people to think they’re “otherkin”, and they’re very, very common amongst young people, especially. I know, because I’ve felt the same way, and I very often still do. I’m also a non-binary person, and I can tell you from experience that the two are not the same.
When people treat you like shit all the time and don’t seem to want to understand you or listen to you, or when you have a hard time understanding other people or relating to them at all, it can make the world feel like an alien place and it’s very easy to feel like you might not be human at all. Feeling isolated or lonely or misunderstood can make it very easy for delusions like that to creep in, and then when you discover that there’s a whole community of people who are telling you that your problems don’t need to be worked on or fixed and that you should not only embrace them but encourage them, that’s a much more comfortable and appealing option than honestly examining your issues and working through them. It’s also a highly toxic and destructive option, because you’re actively digging yourself deeper and deeper into your delusions instead of digging yourself out of them.
Self-examination hurts. It does, I know. It can be extremely upsetting and uncomfortable to look at yourself honestly and get to the bottom of your thoughts and feelings, but it’s something that we all have to do at some point. I understand that the explanation that you are “otherkin” is an easy one because it doesn’t require you to go through any of that upset or discomfort, and it’s so much nicer to believe that you’re just fine the way you are and that your issues are just part of your identity, that the people who tell you that you’re wrong are just “oppressing” you or they’re “ableist”.
But please, Anon, be brave, okay? You can get through this, and one day you’ll look back on it and see it all for what it was.
You are going to be okay.
It’s not about men or women.
Nobody should ever hit anyone.
Nobody should ever rape anyone.
Nobody should ever murder anyone.
Nobody should ever beat anyone.
Nobody should ever threaten anyone.
Nobody should ever insult anyone.
Nobody should ever make anyone uncomfortable.
Nobody should ever touch anyone without their consent.
Nobody should ever steal from anyone.
Nobody should ever humiliate anyone.
the worst thing imaginable is when youre fucking furious with someone for damn good reason and you confront them about it and they actually realize what theyve done and how shitty it is and apologize profusely and are super nice about it like wtf bitch we about to fight dont be nice. the fuck you doing